Owen Lafave came into the studio this morning to promote his new book "Gorgeous Disaster: The Tragic Story of Debra Lafave." Debra is Owen's ex-wife and is the teacher who was arrested for having sex with her 14-year-old student in 2004. Before Owen, Debra dated Backstreet Boy, Nick Carter in high school, but they broke up when he found out that she had cheated on him...with another girl.
Howard thought having your wife cheat on you with a 14-year-old boy was much worse than having her do it with another woman, and everybody agreed that it would have been a much easier situation to deal with if the other man had been an adult. Owen said that, in a way, it was easier to deal with because the guy was so young, and he knows now that a situation like this creates a lot of emotional fallout for the boy in this type of situation too.
Owen explained he met Debra in college and she didn't appear to be that wild in bed. He wouldn't go into too much detail about their sex life, but he said that they made a couple of videos during their time together, played with some sex toys here and there and had what he described as a "dysfunctional" sex life that was both hot and cold, but never consistent. Owen said that, in her second year of teaching, she started to wear revealing clothes to school and was arrested within a couple of months, so it all happened pretty quickly.
Owen added that Debra claimed that she was molested at a young age and was later raped, so he thinks she might subconsciously hate men. Owen revealed he found out about the affair one day when Debra's mom called him and told him she had been arrested for lewd and lascivious conduct with a student. Howard said it had to be so embarrassing for Owen because there's nothing worse than going to work to support your wife and getting blindsided by something like this.
Owen said it was pretty bad, and he had never contemplated suicide before this all happened, but said that he had a weekend where he didn't get off the couch and doesn't know how he got up for work that next Monday.
Howard wondered if Owen had a problem with sex or if his penis was too small, which would make her stray. Owen reported that he's never had a complaint about the size of his penis and that he thinks its normal sized. Howard said that his ex is a smokin' hot chick and said he felt so bad for him being put in this situation.
Owen said he initially expected to be a bachelor for life after this, but has since worked out the emotional problems that the whole situation has caused. He is now remarried and said he can now joke about this and talk about it openly. Owen said the hardest thing to deal with, besides the depression he went through, was the trust issues he faced with women since his wife slept with a teenager.
Owen said he just feels sorry for her now and thought she probably has some emotional problems. Artie pointed out the double standard in society – if the tables had been turned and he was having sex with a 14-year-old girl, he'd be in jail, but they're sitting around debating if they should feel sorry for her. Debra never served time in jail for this but is serving three years of house arrest and seven years of probation.
Ralph called in to say he wasn't sure if this story could be stretched into a book...but she sound like the greatest teacher ever. Howard told him he was crazy and asked if Owen had to pay anything during the divorce. Owen said that he just split anything he had down the middle right away when she left the house, and regretted it right away when he realized that he still had to pay all of the bills. Howard wished him luck with the book and said he needed to go vomit because he was so disgusted by this story.